cousincouple

fact number 2

2009-01-15T18:53:00.002+08:00

Albert Einstein and Elsa Einstein is first cousin and they where legally married, read it from a book entitled EINSTEIN: His Life and Universe written by Walter Isaacson.

our grandfather's death

2007-10-25T21:35:00.000+08:00

The title of this entry, actually it's a situation that gave me a lot of mixed emotions, fears and uncertaties. It's not the death of my grandfather that concerned us most but its implication that our relatives and friends should meet and unite to mourn for our grandfather's death.

By the way, my grandfather spend his last days in my parent's house where we, Zhel and I, are currently staying. So it is where the wake was also done.

Our aunts and uncles including our cousins will surely come which will definitely put us in a "hot-seat" situation, therefore, I convinced myself to be courageous and i told myself "I will face them all!" Fortunately, no "hot-seat" situation arose untill my grandpa was brought to his last destination. Only when after my grandpa's burial when I was put to a "hot-seat" when my youngest uncle came asking money for my grandpa's headstone because he invited my closest male cousin to drink. The three of us drink. My uncle said that, "What happened to us, Zhel & I, was not right and it degraded our clan's reputation and even more to my parent's. But they said, it already happened and there's nothing we can do to reverse it, so let it be. Just promise not to let it happen again." Then I said, "Thank you for accepting it and we had a deal not to let it happen again in any other generations to come..." A big relief!!!

Anyway, Zhel has just gave birth to a healthy baby girl with no abnormalities so far, last September 29, 2007. Her name is Sophi. In addition, our grandpa, on my father's side, died last October 9, 2007.

fact number 1

2007-06-05T22:25:00.000+08:00

Marcelo H. del Pilar, a very famous, with the ranks of Jose P. Rizal, propagandist during Spanish occupation in the Philippines, late 1800s.

"In 1878, he married his first cousin, Marciana del Pilar, by whom he had several children with only Anita and Sofia surviving."

(p. 135, History of the Filipino People by Teodoro A. Agoncillo)

we are going to be a family!

2007-06-03T10:52:00.000+08:00

First of all we would like to ask an apology for not updating this blog for almost 6 months due to the lack of significant events that happened in our life from the time of our last entry to May 27, 2007.

We are still currently living with my parent's house, Zhel's uncle and auntie. the situation with respect to our relationship with my parents have improved significantly. My mother seemed to already accept us 99%, I could say although my father is still a bit indifferent but fairly enough to make us feel welcome in the house. My younger sister is still a monster. Silent but if a little potential conflict will arise, she transforms into a wild animal, so we just ignore her as much as we can. I feel pitty of her since she has two child, separated to their father. A single mother, I would say.

Anyway, we have a good news. This May28, we go to a doctor and have Zhel checked-up for pregnancy and the test result is positive. We are going to have a baby. We are going to be a family in three months. The feelings are mixed with happiness, fear and uncertainty. I know that this will be the start of a new challenge that we will be facing.

Right now, I'm working (trainee) in a company that sells computer parts and accessories. I'm currently earning Php 225.00 (training allowance) and expecting to increased by at least Php 125.00 after my training. I admit I'm not that proud of my job considering I'm a graduate of B.S. in Computer Science in one of the top computer universities in the country. I guess that only reflects how hard to land a good job here in the Philippines in the present time.

I'm still calling to fellow Filipino couples with similar situation like ours. Please give us at least your email address for me to know if our number are increasing. Thank you...

welcome home

2007-01-16T21:46:00.000+08:00

We're home! To my (Nath's) home today. Actually, we've been staying home for almost 2 weeks now which means we're in peace now with my parents, I'm just not sure with my sister. I'm still assessing her. Hopefully good...

God help us...

I'm very very glad and almost totally feel relieve upon finally going back home. It was a brave move that we made during the discovery and I thought that time that me and Zhel will sleep on the street but I guess God just guide me in last minutes-decisions I made during that time. I'm glad that at least all decisions I made produced good results. Our current status now proves it.

My mother is in full support on our relationship but my father is half, I think. But I can't blame my father since Zhel's blood is on his side. I'm hoping and praying, and ready to do all I can to make our relationship go up to the ultimate goals and dreams of lovers, wedding.

Hmm, a first-cousin wedding here in the Philippines? Huge challenge and as of now, an impossible dream, but I'm calling to all my fellow Filipino who are on the same situation like ours, please unite with us and let us make our dreams come true... In God's help, I know it will come true.

welcome BUKNOY!

2006-12-20T20:49:00.000+08:00

We have a new member of a family, his name is BUKNOY. He is a dog. Our future guard and savior from bad people. Too bad we don't have a pic to post here but we'll try to provide one.

Buknoy is about 2 weeks old. We bought him for Php 50.00 last December 18, 2006 at around 6:00 pm, Manila time. He's cute and playful...

We'll put his picture here, hopefully soon... ;-)

an offer or a negotiating tactic?

2006-12-17T21:21:00.000+08:00

Whatever it is, it sounds good but a little tricky for me. My mother just asked me, "Bumalik na kayo dito." in english, "Go back home.(both of us)". I replied, "Si Irene(my sister), mabunganga.", in english, "Irene is provokatively nagger." Then my mother said (my father was sitting on my side) they will talk to her and will handle her... Sounds good and relieving but I did not say anything...

It was last night when I visited them to ask for "help" to redeem my 3310 (cellphone) that I mortgaged for Php 300.00.

Right now, I have no job yet but there might be an opening somewhere near the subdivision my parents live. I would know if there is on Tuesday (December 19, 2006). I hope there is...

God help us...

I have a total of around Php 1,500.00 worth of debt to pay this coming January 13, 2007 and expecting it to swell if I and Zhel would stay in our apartment. Because of the offer, we are now in safe situation, financially, but I'm not sure about the other Aspect of Life if we decide to accept it.

Right now, I feel relieved and at the same time uncertain as to what they planned and if we would go back home. We'll try to discuss about it this coming Tuesday...

reconciliation with my parents

2006-12-02T21:56:00.000+08:00

Good news! One thing has led to another.

It has started when my wife, Zhel, got an idea,"Why not get the remaining parts of your PC?", that we left in my parent's house.

I thought it was a good idea, considering that we got no one to lend money anymore. First of all, because I already owe money from them (my old and closest friends) and secondly, they discovered that I just made "The Great Escape" that is why I'm lending money from them. Normal reaction. They thought I decieved them, unintentionally. Anyway, these are the reason why I decided to go home and get the remaining parts of my PC for selling.

It was a brave decision and a brave move as well. Fortunately, it was not what I expected that I saw. I saw their pity situation and faces asking for reconciliation. I took my PC and told my mother I will send them money everytime I got my salary, when I got a job.

Unfortunately, I think, the reonciliation is only for me and my parents but not with my sister, but it's enough for me. I did not tell them that I would go back home with my wife because I'm not sure if they have already accepted it. Better living alone with my wife since I can ask help from my parents anyway anytime I need it from now on.

Thank God...

Cousin couple links

2006-11-21T14:21:00.000+08:00

Here are some links I gathered with my limited access on the net:

http://www.cousincouples.com/ - the link speaks for itself, just have a look if you're mind is open enough.

http://kissingcousins.eu.kz/ - the link is the forum son of the first link.

These are the links as of the moment, we'll try to collect more soon...

we are back

2006-11-17T13:27:00.000+08:00

Hello world! We are still alive and kicking. We're back!

Sorry guys if we made all of you worried and disappointed, we just lie lowed a little for the reason that we entered into a lot of challenges and crisis in our life as couple. We lost money and we're being thrown away from the "shelter", I thought, for the reason that somebody will arrive and use the room. It was my cousin's house, in my knowledge, but it was my aunt "in-law" that told us to get out of the house. We got out of the house gracefully even though we do not have anywhere to go.

God is still good to us...

When I thought about Him, an idea, a friend of mine, a God-loving friend came to my mind and so we still have a good place to stay for a while, I believe and God did not let us down.

Here's the chronological order of events that happened from the time we're gone off-line up to the current time:

10/02/2006: Early morning we packed and go. I've decided to visit a friend in his work somewhere in Manila and tried to get help. He lend me a little money just enough for a fare going to a friend again and tried to get help, the same help and got it.

It was already dark after we get help from the second. After getting enough fare going to my God-loving friend, we're good to go.

We arrived at my friend's house at around 9:00 p.m. and as I expected, we are accepted.

"Never loose a friend who are God-loving."

10/02/2006 - 10/13/2006: We spent eleven days in my friend's house and we need to stay away 'cause his father and sister will arrive soon.

10/13/2006: We got our own apartment, just somewhere near my friend's house for only Php 600.00/month, fortunately they know the owner.

Anyway, the place is located very near to my parent's house and my God-loving friend is also the one we stayed for one night the first day our "Great Escape" (Sept. 15, 2006).

"We go in circle."

You guts might be wondering where I got money for one month advance for rent, I got money from another friend. It is good that we decided to reside temporarily near my friends's houses.

11/07/2006: I got a job in a company that sells roasted chicken. Their outlets are located inside the most popular shopping establishment in the country.

I Trained for a period of one week and were supposed to be transfered to another branch after the training but, unfortunately, I was removed.

11/14/2006: I'm out of the job. My five days training was paid at least.

11/17/2006: We're back online...

That's it. We might be gone for some time after this entry but we promise we will remain as what we've said in our first entry. I hope you stay with us guys and support us.

I just wanna add, I got my diploma and official transcript of collegiate records for B.S. in Computer Science yesterday. If there's anybody there who are willing to help and give me a chance for a job it would be very much appreciated. Email us at nathzhel@gmail.com, thanks...

we've visited my future father in law

2006-09-24T15:27:00.000+08:00

Yesterday we've decided to visit, actually a surprise visit to my "wife's" father. The reason is, we need some money for our daily needs. We don't have any job yet, at least I know we haven't given yet. God help us!

I can say that his' standard of living is a bit low for an average Filipino family so we didn't expect to get a lot. Adding to their not so good living condition is his rumored addiction to illegal drugs.

Zhel's father haven't yet received the news about our GREAT ESCAPE, fortunately, since he lives at Cavite while my family, the witnesses, lives in Bulacan. The distance is about hundreds of miles far and not have any means of communication.

We stayed there for overnight and return to Manila early in the morning after we got the money. Not much money but better not much than nothing...

we found shelter

2006-09-18T13:52:00.000+08:00

God really guide us! Now we found shelter to stay for a while. It was somewhere in Manila. I feel a bit excited about the place since I sort of dream about living here someday. I live all my life in a rural area where there are very few people to interact with and few establishments and entertainment places to go. I sort of liked the noise here in Manila and maybe because of the fact that the minimum salary here is reasonable higher than in rurals.

What we need now is a source of living and that's what we are doing now. We roam around the city to familiarize ourself in and hopefully find some "WANTED" postings. A job.

The shelter's environment is far too depressed as compared to my home but I know I can stay here temporarily for maybe 3 or 4 months at least. We have no time for being choosy since life is not choosy also to whom will be fortunate. The strongest survives.

our great escape

2006-09-16T12:47:00.000+08:00

This is our GREAT ESCAPE! We made our greate escape yesterday at 2:00 a.m.. Just like the common escapes lovers do, we pass through a window, my window actually. Now I'm asking why do windows are famous among the escaping lovers here in our country, I don't know if it is the same way in other country. The feeling is a combination of fear, uncertainty and excitement as well as a bit of hesitation since we do not know where to go.

God guide us!

We can't tell as of now our location for our safety while our situation isn't yet stable. We desperately need shelter right now and a source of income to spend buying our basic necessities.

Again, God guide us!

If there's somebody, an angel might be, who are willing to help us, we would take it with outmost gratitude. Manila would be a perfect location while I'm finding a job...

=nath=

the start of the real fight

2006-09-14T14:11:00.000+08:00

This morning at 7:00 a.m. marked the day that we, I actually, finally let out the truth about our relationship. I was awaken this morning from my sleep when I heard my father being mad at Zhel due to the discovery of an evidence, solid evidence about our relationship as lovers. My father told her that he want her (Zhel) pack and go home, away from us. Anyway, Zhel lives in my family house to take good care of my grandpa, our grandpa in my father's side.

I have no other choice but to finally tell them the truth about our relationship to defend ourself. We cannot remain quiet anymore. We can't deny it to them anymore. At first I know they cannot accept it but eventually, I know, they will accept us and swallow all the bad things they told about us. I can understand their initial reaction because they are too narrow-minded and ignorant about the reality in this world. I told them that someday they will tell us "I'm sorry for judging both of you wrongly." And will hope that someday, the our country (Philippines) will finally open itself about accepting cousin marriages and amend its LAWS...

=nath=

hear us

2006-09-11T11:12:00.000+08:00

It seems that no one here in our country has enough courage and determination to come out and let the world know about their "unacceptable" relationship as cousins and at the same time lovers. I don't think that we are not the only "one" with this unique relationship and so I'm calling my kababayans to come out and fight for our right. If it is allowed in America we can change the law here in the Philippines if we will unite also...

Introduction

2006-09-06T11:52:00.000+08:00

Hello world! Mabuhay!

I'm Nath and my girlfriend and cousin, first degree cousin, Zhel. We are here to give you a story about our life "away" from our relatives, of course, since we ran away from them and their unfair judgement about our relationship as lovers and at the same time cousins. We are Filipinos and we are currently living in the Philippines. We came in peace and with courage to tell you that we are cosins and lovers and we intend to remain as lovers for the rest of our lives. I love her and she loves me and will fight for it no matter what.

This is the beginning of our story...